In 2011, Glamour Magazine commissioned an online survey of 2,542 young women aged between 18-35 on domestic violence and whether or not they themselves have been in an abusive relationship. The numbers were quite shocking. Nearly 60% of respondents said they have experienced abuse. 29% of the women surveyed they have been in an abusive relationship. Of those:
- 62% said they have been hit, shoved, or slapped.
- 11% said they are currently in an abusive relationship and predict they will either be severely hurt or killed.
- 33% said they have been choked or strangled.
Oftentimes, an abusive relationship is kept secret by the one being abused out of fear, shame, or another reason. According to the survey, 24% of young women who are in an abusive relationship never report it.
If you know someone you suspect could potentially be in an abusive relationship, please know there will be signs you should look out for. Here are several of many to keep an eye out for:
- She has physical wounds: Look for fresh bruises, scratches, or lacerations. However, you should know that abusers will often inflict wounds on parts of the body that usually aren’t visible. If the person you know says that she is in pain or limps, ask her why.
- She doesn’t take care of herself: An abuser will often emotionally damage a victim to make her feel worthless so she can’t see there’s a better situation out there. If you notice that a friend or family member is no longer following her beauty routine, is gaining weight, or doesn’t exercise when she once did, this could be a tell-tale sign of abuse.
- She starts to become less social: It’s common for those in a new relationship to take a step back from their social circles and concentrate on their relationship. However, if you know someone who no longer goes out with friends at all or seems like she lost her personality out of nowhere, this is a cause for concern.
If you suspect abuse and don’t want to confront your friend or family member, you are encouraged to hire a New York private investigator who can conduct surveillance and paint a better picture of what is going on. Once you get your evidence, you can take the next step – whether that means speaking with the person you know or reporting it to the authorities.